It has only been in the past 6 months that I've reached out to other parents with diabetic children for advice and support. Autumn was diagnosed 3 years ago. At first I was obviously very overwhelmed with everything and just needed to figure out how to take care of her. Soon after I met a parent who was so negative and said such horrible things that I decided I was better of on my own.
Yes, it's a horrible thing. I would never wish it on anyone. But it is what you make of it. I want my daughter to lead as normal a life as possible. The only thing different from her than other children is her pancreas doesn't produce insulin. Period! She can play, do sports, go to school, dance, run, be a mom one day. She can do anything she wants. Don't get me wrong, it's more work to have her do all these things, but she can. And she will. I'm making sure she knows how to manage her diabetes and do everything she wishes.
I am currently connected with 3 wonderful groups on FaceBook. These are mom's like me. They make mistakes. They get frustrated. They woo hoo the good days and shed tears on the bad. They have helped me through many ups and downs and it's been a wonderful experience sharing with them.
Today there was a post from a mom whose child had just been diagnosed. She posted because her child's doctor recommended she quit her job to stay home to take care of her child. I won't get into how I feel about that. Luckily the other moms gave her great advise which included finding a new doctor. One mom posted this quote and it really struck home with me:
“If you show your child that their diabetes stops you from doing what you love and dream, you will show your child to let it stop them. Moreover, you’ll convince them they’ve taken something from you -- something you never want your child to think.”
----Dr. Jake Kushner
I couldn't agree more.
That is awesome advice for any parent! Great post.
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